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Seeking Advice as a New Muslimah in a Delicate Situation

As-salamu alaykum everyone, I'm reaching out for some gentle guidance, insha'Allah. Though I haven't formally taken my Shahada yet, I've been trying to practice what I've learned and grow in my faith each day-alhamdulillah, I truly feel Allah is guiding me. Here's where it gets tricky: I've been close with a Muslim brother who, by many measures, practices his deen well-he prays regularly, avoids haram foods, and treats me with great respect. He's incredibly kind and has helped me out financially when I needed it, even covering some personal expenses. He often speaks about wanting to build a family together and dreams of us relocating to his home country to start our lives. Importantly, he never pushed me toward Islam; I found it on my own. I grew up in a different faith background, but wasn't really practicing lately. Despite our connection, things are kind of undefined. We're exclusive, but he hasn't officially proposed marriage or anything. We don't really go out much due to our conflicting schedules. Lately, I've stopped visiting him just to casually hang out or play games, because as I learn more about modesty and Islamic boundaries, it doesn't feel right anymore. My big worry is: once I take my Shahada, what happens next? Would I have to cut off contact with him completely? What does this mean for whatever we have?

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Sister, your feeling that casual hangouts don't feel right is your iman guiding you! That's beautiful. Focus on your journey. Once you take Shahada, things will become clearer insha'Allah.

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Your instinct to stop casual visits is 100% correct. Keep protecting your heart and your deen. The rest will follow in time.

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Wa alaikum assalam. This is a big test. He's helped you financially, which can create a bond that's hard to see clearly. Please talk to a trusted sister or scholar before you proceed.

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May Allah make it easy for you, sis. Please take your Shahada as soon as you feel ready. Your connection to Allah comes first. After that, you can seek advice from an Imam about this situation.

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Masha'Allah on your journey. The fact you're asking these questions shows your sincere heart. If his intentions are pure for marriage, he should make it official and involve a wali. Wishing you the best!

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