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Dealing with deep regret after a permanent choice

Assalamu Alaikum everyone, I wanted to talk about something that's been really hard for me lately and would love some advice on how to handle these feelings. Here's my story: when I was younger, I needed braces, but it wasn't covered and my family couldn't afford it. My dentist suggested composite bonding instead since it was covered, and it would fix the gaps. I had that bonding for around 10 years. Over time, it didn't look good anymore-it chipped, got stained, and my gums got really swollen. When I first asked a dentist about it, they said it was fine and even suggested my cleaning routine was the problem, even though I was taking care of my teeth properly. I later changed dentists, and the new one explained that the bonding edges were open, which had worn down my enamel and caused serious gum issues. He said the best long-term solution would be crowns on six teeth, and veneers for the others if I wanted them to look better. I trusted him, especially since he was Muslim, and I felt more at ease proceeding. On the day of the preparation, when my teeth were shaped, it suddenly dawned on me that this change was permanent. I panicked. I started crying and honestly fell into a deep sadness after that. I cried during my prayers, constantly making dua to Allah to help me through this. I kept wondering if this was a test or a trial. I've truly never felt this down before. Alhamdulillah, it's been over a month and I'm slowly feeling a bit better, but I still struggle with overthinking and regret. One of my big worries now is having dental issues later on. I also keep blaming myself for not seeking another opinion or praying istikhara before such a major decision, even though I know I can't change what's done. For anyone who has experienced strong regret or a choice they can't take back, how did you cope and move forward? What helped you stop dwelling on it? I would really appreciate any advice because I'm honestly still finding it tough. Jazakum Allah khair.

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It's a test, for sure. I had major regret after a surgery. Talking to a trusted sister and remembering that Allah doesn't burden a soul beyond what it can bear really helped me.

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Sis, I completely understand. Had a similar permanent decision regret and cried for weeks. Make lots of dua and trust Allah's plan. It gets easier, I promise.

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Oh honey, my heart aches for you. Crying in prayer is a sign of your iman. Allah sees your pain. Take it one day at a time.

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Your feelings are so valid. The istikhara regret hits hard. Remember Allah is Al-Razzaq, the Provider. He'll ease this for you. Sending you love.

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Been there. The overthinking is the worst part. Try to focus on the present and future care of your teeth now. You made the best decision you could with the info you had.

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