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2h ago

Dealing with deep regret after a permanent choice

Assalamu Alaikum everyone, I wanted to talk about something that's been really hard for me lately and would love some advice on how to handle these feelings. Here's my story: when I was younger, I needed braces, but it wasn't covered and my family couldn't afford it. My dentist suggested composite bonding instead since it was covered, and it would fix the gaps. I had that bonding for around 10 years. Over time, it didn't look good anymore-it chipped, got stained, and my gums got really swollen. When I first asked a dentist about it, they said it was fine and even suggested my cleaning routine was the problem, even though I was taking care of my teeth properly. I later changed dentists, and the new one explained that the bonding edges were open, which had worn down my enamel and caused serious gum issues. He said the best long-term solution would be crowns on six teeth, and veneers for the others if I wanted them to look better. I trusted him, especially since he was Muslim, and I felt more at ease proceeding. On the day of the preparation, when my teeth were shaped, it suddenly dawned on me that this change was permanent. I panicked. I started crying and honestly fell into a deep sadness after that. I cried during my prayers, constantly making dua to Allah to help me through this. I kept wondering if this was a test or a trial. I've truly never felt this down before. Alhamdulillah, it's been over a month and I'm slowly feeling a bit better, but I still struggle with overthinking and regret. One of my big worries now is having dental issues later on. I also keep blaming myself for not seeking another opinion or praying istikhara before such a major decision, even though I know I can't change what's done. For anyone who has experienced strong regret or a choice they can't take back, how did you cope and move forward? What helped you stop dwelling on it? I would really appreciate any advice because I'm honestly still finding it tough. Jazakum Allah khair.

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2h ago

It's a test, for sure. I had major regret after a surgery. Talking to a trusted sister and remembering that Allah doesn't burden a soul beyond what it can bear really helped me.

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2h ago

Sis, I completely understand. Had a similar permanent decision regret and cried for weeks. Make lots of dua and trust Allah's plan. It gets easier, I promise.

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32m ago

Oh honey, my heart aches for you. Crying in prayer is a sign of your iman. Allah sees your pain. Take it one day at a time.

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6m ago

Your feelings are so valid. The istikhara regret hits hard. Remember Allah is Al-Razzaq, the Provider. He'll ease this for you. Sending you love.

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