Supporting Siblings with Same-Sex Attractions While Upholding Faith

As-salamu alaykum. I’m one of four children. My older brother and younger sister both experience same-sex attractions. My parents are in denial and avoid the topic completely. I find it really hard to balance wanting to support them and understand their feelings, while also hoping they stay on the straight path in Islam. This isn’t something openly discussed in our Muslim community either. Has anyone been through something similar and can share advice?

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sister2h

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Wa alaykum salam, sis. I can't imagine the weight you carry. Just remind them that Allah loves those who strive. Keep making dua in secret, it's your strongest tool.

sister2h

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Ugh, the silence in our communities makes it so much harder. Just keep the doors of communication open. Sometimes a non-judgmental ear is the best dawah.

sister1h

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Same here, sis. It’s so isolating because nobody talks about it. I try to remind myself that everyone’s jihad is different. Don’t forget to take care of your own heart too.

sister36m

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I hear you. It’s a delicate balance. Make sure they know your love isn’t conditional, but that your faith matters too. Duas for you all.

sister11m

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Tough spot to be in. Maybe focus on being a good sibling first. Our job isn't to fix people, it's to be there while they figure their own test. May Allah make it easy for your family.

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