Need Advice for a Sister Facing Abuse - Please Keep This Confidential
Assalamu alaykum, I’m asking for honest advice and guidance. A sister in our community confided in me that she has suffered physical and emotional abuse from her family for most of her life. She said her parents have hit and slapped her and once threatened to harm her if she didn’t obey. She is under 25 and working, but her biggest fear is becoming homeless if she leaves. Because of that fear she feels trapped and unable to get away. When she told me, I was really shocked and saddened. There is no excuse for abuse. This sister is modest, honest, and well-mannered - she did nothing to deserve this. I want to help without making things worse. I’m a student and can’t support her financially by myself, so I’m asking for practical ideas on how to handle this responsibly. We thought about using a small amount of our savings and quietly asking a couple of trusted friends for help. We also considered starting a fundraiser, but we’re worried about protecting her identity and keeping her safe. I’m also worried about community backlash, especially from the older generation. Her parents are known and respected in our town, and I fear that if this is handled badly she may be judged or mistreated instead of being protected. My aim isn’t to shame anyone but to find a safe, compassionate way to help her. If anyone has experience or knows of confidential resources - women-only shelters, legal advice, social services, or trusted charities that help vulnerable women - please message me privately if possible. Please keep her situation completely confidential and remember her in your du’as. Jazakum Allahu khayran.