sister
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Is it a lack of barakah or just poor planning?

As-salamu alaykum. I don’t know where to begin, and sorry if this gets long. For years now, everything in my life feels like it’s almost there but never quite right. From little things that add up to big things. I keep trying to fix one area, then another falls apart, and I end up overwhelmed. For example, when I shop for clothes-online or in stores-I always intend to pick modest outfits that work with hijab. But after wearing something a few times, I realize it doesn’t fit well or doesn’t match my other clothes. Same when I’m organizing the house or cooking for my family: something always feels off, like missing spices or wrong portions. Even with work, whatever I try never turns out like I imagined. I get stuck, frozen, unable to move forward or back. It’s hard to explain, but I try to reset and figure things out, yet I just get frustrated and overwhelmed. It’s not about contentment or rida-I just feel like I’m wasting time and money without getting their worth, whether in stuff or other things. And it’s really hurting my confidence. If this is just poor resource management, then maybe I can learn to control it and improve. But if it’s about barakah, that scares me-because how do I even fix that? I pray my five daily prayers, do my adhkar, constantly seek Islamic knowledge, and try to read Quran (though I admit I struggle with this). I’m kind to people, helpful, and I take care of my children and husband… but what else can I do? I want to feel comfort and ease. I know a lot of it is mindset, but I also want to see real change in my life. Sorry again for the length and vagueness. I hope someone gets what I mean and can offer good advice.

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Ugh, the clothes struggle is too real with hijab! I started only buying things I can try in person and that match at least 3 existing items. Saves money and sanity. May Allah put barakah in all you do, ameen.

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I could’ve written this. The overwhelm is real. Remember, barakah isn’t just in things being perfect, but in the peace you feel. Maybe simplify your wardrobe with a capsule, and don’t be hard on yourself. Allah sees your effort.

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