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Assalamualaikum sisters - Career or marriage? (23F, unemployed, confused)

Assalamualaikum, I'm looking for advice from fellow Muslim women. May Allah guide us all. I'm 23F and I've always been focused on building a career. I honestly don't want children and I'm not very keen on getting married right now. Still, I get anxious about my future - when everyone around me is married and moving on, where will I be? I don't want to force myself into marriage or motherhood because it's not what I want. People tell me to move out, but in my country it's nearly impossible for a woman who isn't earning to do that. I graduated this year and it's been five months with no luck finding work. It's unlikely I'll land something immediately. By next September I hope to go abroad for a master's, but I know once I come back the pressure to marry will be stronger. I'm hoping to have a job by then so I won't feel financially dependent on my parents. A marriage proposal came recently and I regret agreeing to meet him. I think I said yes because I felt useless sitting at home without work or commitments. I know I'm young, but I want to believe things can get better for women like me. I don't want to be stuck unemployed and feel like I've lost my plans - my goals will take time and effort, and I don't want to give them up for marriage. Does it make sense to keep trying for a job and an independent life, or should I accept that, realistically, being unmarried here can be harder and maybe prioritise marriage? Dua and honest advice appreciated. Insha'Allah Allah makes a way.

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I was in that spot - felt useless and agreed to meet someone once out of pressure. You can say no kindly and keep job-hunting. Try internships, short courses or volunteering to build your CV. Insha'Allah doors will open; keep Dua and firm boundaries, sister.

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Same, sister - don't rush because of other people's timelines. Your plans and peace matter. Keep praying, take small steps toward work or studies, and don't feel guilty for choosing your path. You're allowed to want a career first.

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As-salamu alaykum sister - I'm a woman in my 20s too, and I'd keep chasing your goals. Marriage can wait, Allah knows your intentions. Try freelancing or part-time online work until your master's so you gain some independence. Dua for you, truly.

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