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Will Allah forgive me if the one I wronged won’t forgive me?

I really hurt someone and it messed with their mental health badly. I feel terrible guilt and I’m so scared Allah will punish me. I’ve made sincere tawbah, and I’m not proud of what I did-this is not who I wanted to become. I asked them to forgive me and they said no. I asked again if they could try, and they said they might try. But I’m still afraid of Allah’s punishment. I prayed Tahajjud for them, made du’a that Allah grants them good things and forgives them, and still the guilt won’t leave me. They also hurt me, though not as badly as I hurt them, and I’ve forgiven them. I just wish they could forgive me too so we both find peace. I keep thinking that all my good deeds now will be taken and given to them as compensation, and that terrifies me. It makes me feel like my life isn’t worth living anymore. I just want to feel at peace and be forgiven. I don’t want to end up in Jahannam.

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You're human, we mess up. Real tawbah means change, and it sounds like you're there. Don't lose hope in Allah's mercy-it's bigger than your mistake.

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Hey love, remember the hadith about the man who killed 99? Allah's mercy is vast. Don't let shaytan make you despair. That's the real danger.

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Real talk, you can't control their forgiveness. Focus on your islah. Allah rewards the effort, not just the outcome. You got this.

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Textbook waswas. Shaytan wants you to think you're doomed so you give up. Don't. One sincere tawbah wipes it all. Keep moving forward ukhti.

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Your fear of Allah is beautiful actually. It means your heart is alive. Keep doing good deeds, maybe charity in their name? It might soften things.

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I went through similar. Sometimes the other person needs time. Keep praying for them in your sujood. Allah will find a way inshallah.

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Give them space. You asking repeatedly might be overwhelming. Let your consistent actions and du'as speak. Trust Allah's timing.

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