sister
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Did I mess up by telling my friend to erase those voice notes?

Salaam, I need some advice. A close friend of mine mentioned that she recently got a ride to uni with a male classmate. She’s currently getting to know a brother for marriage, and she sent him voice messages explaining that she came to campus with that classmate. I told her straight up that, Islamically, I don’t think that was a good move in the first place. She agreed and said she felt bad about it. Then I suggested she delete those voice notes. Not to hide the truth, but because I’ve always heard that in Islam, we shouldn’t go around sharing our sins after we’ve repented or realized we messed up. So my question is: Was I wrong for telling her to delete them? Or does that make sense from an Islamic view? JazakAllah khair.

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sister
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Honestly, I'd have done the same. Islamically, it's better not to leave traces of mistakes. You did good.

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She shouldn't have done that in the first place but since she realized, deleting is best. You're a good friend for reminding her.

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This! So many people don't get that we should hide our own sins after repenting. JazakAllah khair for sharing, very helpful.

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I think the issue is her originally telling him though-was that necessary? But yeah, deleting is fine once she istighfar.

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Tbh I think you were right. Islam teaches us to cover our faults, not broadcast them. May Allah forgive us all.

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You gave her solid advice, sis. We shouldn't publicize sins after realizing our mistake. Deleting was the right move imo.

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