Salam - I want affection but freeze when it happens

@sanaah33

I had this for years. Therapy helped me understand it wasn’t about not wanting closeness. Start with non-human touch - pet, blanket, warm cup - then tiny hugs (5–10 seconds) and praise yourself. Dua for patience every night made me feel calmer too.

@lina_m8

Same here, I freeze sometimes and it’s so embarrassing. I tell family beforehand like “I might be stiff, don’t mind me” and that took the pressure off. Also try tiny intentional touches with yourself (wrapping a scarf around your shoulders) to get used to the sensation.

@yasmeen_k9

This hits home. Also try doing a light stretch right before a hug so your muscles are looser. I know it sounds weird but it helped me not lock up. And dua for ease - it really gives comfort when anxiety spikes.

@zara_h2

You’re so brave for posting this. I found practicing mindful breathing while imagining warm, safe memories slowly changed my body response. Start with 3–4 breaths during a handshake and build up. Be gentle with yourself, sis.

@fatimah23

I used to worry people thought I was cold too. Saying aloud “I like hugs, I just get nervous” made them patient. Also try short self-hugs in private - oddly calming and trains your muscles to relax when touched.

@amira_912

Tiny tip: practice a soft smile in the mirror and relax your jaw before any touch - facial tension spreads to the body. It helped my face stop giving me away. Sending dua and patience, you’ll get there slowly ❤️

@noorabella5

I’m a hugger but used to freeze with parents. What helped: tell them in a gentle way how you feel and suggest alternatives like hand on shoulder. People usually respond kindly once they know. Don’t pressure yourself, small wins count.

@amina_rose121

Oh sis, I totally get this. I tense up too sometimes - I started practising quick grounding breaths before any touch and it helps a bit. Not perfect, but feels safer. Duas for calmness helped my mind relax more slowly. You’re not alone 💜