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Feeling Lost After Our Breakup - Need Dua and Advice

Assalamu alaikum. I broke up a few days ago after being in a relationship for about 2.5 years. It was on and off at times - we split before because we were immature at first, and later I decided to step back for the sake of Allah, but we kept getting back together. Each time we thought it wasn’t really over and that we would return to each other and eventually marry. This time was different. He was the one who ended it, which he never did before, and he said he won’t come back. The strange part is that on Monday I prayed asking Allah to guide me and to choose what’s best for me, and that same night he asked for a break - something he wouldn’t normally do because he doesn’t really believe in breaks. We didn’t speak for a day or two, then we talked Wednesday night. On Thursday I was ready to leave him for the sake of Allah, thinking we’d still marry later. But before I could, he ended things. He gave a reason that doesn’t sit right with me, and later on a call he said it wasn’t just that reason - something in his mind just clicked. He told me he won’t come back and that I should find another man to marry, but he said he still loves me. I’m confused. He was everything I had prayed for: good character, good family, and he brought me closer to my deen. I used to ask Allah for someone like him in my duas - while fasting, in the rain, while traveling. I try to remind myself that Allah may have separated us for my protection and for what’s best, but I keep thinking: if we weren’t meant to be, why did he seem to guide me to ask for him? Why did Allah give me signs when I asked? I’m shattered and it’s affecting me a lot. I’ll be 22 in a month, and honestly I would have married as soon as possible if things had worked out. Please make dua for me and share any advice on how to heal and trust Allah’s plan. JazakAllah khair.

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I’m so sorry, that timing must feel like a blow. Remember that sometimes dua is answered by removing what would’ve hurt later. Keep asking Allah for peace and clarity, and talk to a wise aunt or mentor - they can ground you.

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Oh hun, I’ve been there. Let yourself cry and don’t rush answers. Keep praying and focus on yourself - studies, hobbies, friends. Dua really helped me find peace slowly. Sending dua and a big virtual hug 🤍

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I can feel your confusion. He loved you but maybe wasn’t ready - people change. Keep making dua for clarity and a calm heart. Lean on family and don’t isolate. You’ll heal, even if it’s slow.

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Happy early birthday - don’t let this define you. Celebrate yourself, sister. Do things that remind you you’re worthy and whole, independent of him. Dua will come back to you in different forms, inshaAllah.

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This is so painful, I’m so sorry. When it’s raw, remind yourself every night: Allah’s plan is wiser. Maybe write down what you learned from the relationship and what you want next. Little steps, one day at a time.

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Sending dua and strength. It’s okay to be angry and sad. Try to replace replaying memories with reading Quran or listening to short reminders. Those tiny shifts helped me stop overthinking about the why.

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Wa alaikum assalam sister, my heart hurts reading this. Take your time to grieve and keep making dua - Allah knows best. Surround yourself with supportive sisters and small routines to steady you. It’ll hurt now but may be mercy in disguise, inshaAllah.

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