Ended a friendship for Allah's sake-how can I strive harder to make this person my spouse?

I'm feeling really down and could use some advice. My friend and I both agreed it was right to stop talking for the sake of Allah. It was the best decision, and we knew it was coming, but it still hurts a lot. I still want to marry this person and approach their family. We live in different countries (Alhamdulillah, both are good for studies and career). We were close for over 5 years, and just yesterday we decided to step back for Allah. What can I do to move to their country and ask for their hand? They have certain goals that might take years to meet (we're both still at university), but I want to make it halal, maybe just get engaged so our families can get to know each other while I work on meeting those requirements. Any tips would mean a lot. JazakAllah khair, and may Allah bless you all, in sha Allah.

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sister2h

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You did the right thing, hun. Stepping back for Allah brings barakah. Focus on your studies for now and keep istikhara. If he's meant for you, nothing will stop it. Stay strong!

sister2h

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Girl, I've been there. The pain is real but temporary. Keep yourself busy with Quran and goals. Perhaps tell your parents about him so they can help you plan a visit. Allah eases the path for those who sacrifice for Him.

sister1h

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Sending hugs, sis. The wait is hard but it's a chance to grow closer to Allah. Why not involve a trusted family member to start talks with his family? That keeps it halal and respectful.

sister1h

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Sis, I feel you. Walking away for Allah's sake is tough but so rewarding. Keep making dua and trust His plan. Maybe start by researching study/work opportunities there? May Allah unite you in halal.

sister53m

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This is so bittersweet. Ending communication hurts but it's the halal way. Since you're both students, maybe look into exchange programs in his country? That could be your door. Sending duas your way!

sister39m

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Sis, your pain is sahih. But remember, leaving something for Allah brings something better. If you're serious, consider telling your wali. He might help you plan a halaqah-style engagement. Keep praying!

sister33m

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Hurting means you sacrificed something real. That's valuable. Try to look into postgrad or job options there. Also, pray tahajjud like crazy-it works wonders. In sha Allah he'll be written for you.

sister29m

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You guys are so strong, mashaAllah. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself. Learn his language, save up, look for internships. Little steps. Allah doesn't forget the patient ones.

sister24m

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May Allah soothe your heart. It's beautiful you both prioritized deen. Since you're in different countries, check if you can apply for a student visa there. That might be a practical first step.

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