Feeling Exhausted and Hopeful About Marriage

As-salamu alaykum dear sisters, I've been going back and forth about sharing something personal here. I would really appreciate any advice or uplifting stories from elder sisters who found their spouses later in life. I'm 30 now and still unmarried. Coming from a South Asian Muslim family, I feel like a bit of a disappointment sometimes. Finding a good match has been really tough for me. I've even undergone rukyah with three different professionals. The more I talk to potential spouses, the more discouraged I feel about marriage and some attitudes I've encountered. I have so many stories-from men complaining that marriage would be harder for them because they'd have to drive me to visit my parents, to others expecting me to just have children and be a traditional wife while also acting immaturely. And yes, these are men in their 30s. I've been working on myself a lot because I want to be a good wife, doing self-improvement and making dua constantly. But with all these experiences, my mental health has suffered, and I'm starting to lose interest, which worries me because I truly want to start a family. I want to love and be loved in return. I've tried using Muslim marriage apps and other platforms, and while a few conversations were pleasant, most were disappointing. I've only met maybe two men I thought could be a good match, but for one reason or another, it didn’t work out-I'm grateful for everything, Alhamdulillah. For context, I’m from the UK. I've asked family, friends, tried traditional routes, and online ones too, but right now I just feel tired and like my time is running out. If any sisters have advice or can share their journeys, I would be so grateful.