Anyone else have positive experiences living with their in-laws?
As-salamu alaykum, I feel blessed to be in the minority here, alhamdulillah. This is more cultural than strictly religious, but I wanted to share and hear others' thoughts and experiences. I actually enjoy living with my in-laws, alhamdulillah - they treat me well. I had a difficult, unstable childhood, and living with them feels like having a second set of parents I can rely on. A few things I think have made this arrangement easier for me: 1. Alhamdulillah, there’s enough space so it doesn’t feel cramped. 2. They’re not judgmental or controlling and they don’t pry into our marriage. We keep our issues private and have our own boundaries. 3. They let me make choices about the home - I still ask them about big changes because I want their input, but mostly they leave me to manage things. 4. My husband makes it a point for us to check in with his parents, sit with them and catch up. That helped me feel comfortable around them. 5. When I stopped insisting we must have our own place right away and accepted their home as mine too, life became a lot easier and happier. Don’t get me wrong, there have been frustrations, especially the first year, but if you have kind in-laws it can truly be a blessing. We originally planned to move out, but his parents are getting older and even if we leave now we’d likely come back in 5–10 years to care for them. My husband doesn’t have siblings to share that duty, so I want to support him in honoring that responsibility as best we can, inshaAllah. 🤲 I know many people have negative experiences and I completely understand why. When it works, though, it works really well. That said, I’d still advise couples to get their own place if possible because mental wellbeing matters more than financial convenience - joining a new family can be hard for women. What are your experiences or thoughts on this?