Sometimes I Wonder If I Should Just Stop Looking

As salamu alaykum, hope you’re all well and your Iman is strong. Lately I’ve been feeling really disheartened about finding a spouse. So many men I meet don’t seem serious about their deen, values, or building a meaningful partnership. A lot call themselves grown men but act like boys, wanting a version of you instead of accepting the whole you. Commitment and maturity feel so rare these days. I’ve encountered Muslim brothers who try to test or push boundaries despite me being clear about my limits, and I’ve met people from other backgrounds too - yet finding someone who truly shares my values feels almost impossible. Sometimes non-Muslims even come across as more sincere, but that’s not a path I can take. Another big frustration is how often men sexualise me. I wish to be approached with respect and sincere intentions, not objectified. A revert once told me, “I hope you’re not too pious.” Wallahi I didn’t know how to respond. I’ll be honest - I worry that if the right person does appear, I’ll be so used to protecting myself that I might come off guarded. Not ideal, but that’s the reality. So where are the ones who are genuinely serious? They must be somewhere far away, because they don’t seem to be here in London, lol. JazakAllah khair.