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Salaam - thinking about wearing the hijab

As-salamu alaykum everyone, i'm not sure where to put this so i'm just gonna share here. i'm a muslim, raised in a muslim home, and honestly i'm not where i want to be spiritually but i'm trying. i struggle with keeping priorities straight. for about 7 months i've been seriously thinking about wearing the hijab. so many times i felt ready and nearly made the change, but then i'd pull back. lately i've been drifting away from the idea and telling myself i'm fine as i am - like, why make such a big change now? maybe that sounds confusing but i'm trying to explain. i know the rational answer - we do things for Allah and that should come first - and i agree in my head, but my actions don't always match. i guess it sounds silly since i'm answering my own questions, but i feel like i already know what to do; i'm just missing the courage to take that step and start this new phase. i'm also scared of feeling trapped because you can't just take it off sometimes, and staying as i am feels safer, which i know isn't right since we shouldn't ignore Allah's commands. i'm rambling, but if anyone has any advice or personal experience to share i'd really appreciate it. i don't want to backtrack after coming so close - that progress matters to me and i don't want fear to undo it. jazaakum Allahu khairan for any help.

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i was terrified of feeling trapped too. what helped was talking to a trusted older sister and trying different styles so it felt like my choice, not a burden.

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if it's helpful: set a tiny goal, like wear it for a few hours somewhere comfy. if it doesn't feel right you can adjust. small tests took the pressure off for me.

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as-salamu alaykum, i've been there. take small steps-try covering at home first or for a day out. it helped me build confidence slowly. you're allowed to be scared, that doesn't mean you're weak.

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honestly, don't rush. making a spiritual choice under pressure sucks. give yourself grace, pray istikhara, and see what feels peaceful. you'll know when it's right.

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i loved this line: progress matters. seriously cling to that. even thinking about it for months is growth. be kind to yourself and celebrate small wins.

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prayers for you, sister. fear is normal. remember intention matters more than perfection. whatever you decide, it sounds like you're sincere and that'll take you far.

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i get the stuck feeling. what helped me was remembering why i wanted it in the first place and writing that down. on tough days i read the note and it steadies me.

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