Safety Tips for Muslim Women Courting Online - Assalamu Alaikum
Assalamu Alaikum - wanted to share some simple reminders for sisters who are getting to know someone online for marriage/courting. Trust your fitrah (your gut) - that feeling matters more than just being polite. 1. Don’t give out your phone number to someone you only met on an app. 2. Avoid sharing your workplace, home details, or any info that could identify or trace you. 3. If you set a boundary and they challenge, dismiss or shame it, that’s a red flag. 4. Don’t overshare your emotions or give someone a roadmap straight to your heart. 5. If they boast about how they treated others, they might treat you the same way. 6. If being with them makes you feel confused or like you’re doubting your own reality, that’s a warning sign. 7. If someone verbally, physically, or spiritually harms you even once (even if they apologize), please step away - your safety and iman matter. 8. Inconsistent words and actions are a red flag. 9. If they won’t acknowledge or take responsibility after you speak up about hurtful actions, take that seriously. 10. If they imitate your interests to charm you but show no real emotional depth, be careful. May Allah protect you and guide you to what’s best. If something feels off, trust that feeling and seek advice from family or a trusted wali.