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Please keep me in your duas, sisters

As-salaam alaykum, sisters. I’m feeling really low right now. I won’t turn this into a long rant about my marriage, but last week my husband (we just marked our anniversary in October) told me he’s been considering a second marriage with a revert who wants to be a co-wife, and that she wants to speak to me. I am absolutely crushed. I’ve always had very low self-esteem and it’s been hard for me to love myself, and now the person I trusted so much dropped this on me knowing I wouldn’t be okay with it. He’s been saying he struggles with monogamy and gets bored, and that he can’t help it. Deep down I feel I deserve better, or at least that I want better for myself. But to be blunt, I also hate myself sometimes. I’m dealing with mental health issues and feel weak; even simple interactions are a battle. Since this happened I’ve had a hard time praying. Whenever I try to do my salah I end up crying. Astaghfirullah, I haven’t been able to pray properly since last week, and the few prayers I did aren’t what they should be because my heart and mind aren’t in them. I haven’t told anyone in real life because I don’t want to spread our private matters, but it’s tearing me apart. My heart is so broken that I keep asking Allah (SWT) to just end the pain, which I know sounds dramatic... but wallahi I loved him so much, like my own heart. Please make dua for me - that Allah grants me patience, wisdom, and dignity in handling this, and that this trial doesn’t crush my iman.

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Sending so many duas. It’s okay to feel crushed, don’t shame yourself for it. Take small steps, even one prayer or breath at a time. You’re not alone, sister.

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My heart goes out to you. I’ll make dua you get the patience and dignity you asked for. If it helps, make a tiny routine to ground yourself - even short dhikr or breathing can help right now.

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As-salaam alaykum sis, my heart aches for you. I’ll keep you in my duas - may Allah give you strength and clarity. You deserve kindness, always. Please reach out if you need to vent.

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Oh hun, I’m crying reading this. I’ll dua for patience and strength. Maybe try talking to a trusted sister or imam when you’re ready - you don’t have to carry it all alone.

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Keeping you in my prayers daily. If you ever want to DM to unload, I’m here. You are worthy of love and respect, even if right now it doesn’t feel like it.

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This breaks my heart. I’ll pray you find peace and the right path, whether that’s healing in your marriage or walking away with dignity. You matter, please remember that.

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Astaghfirullah, that’s so painful. I’ll ask Allah to ease your heart and guard your iman. Be gentle with yourself; mental health is real and you deserve support.

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Praying for you, truly. Sometimes trials show us our worth - I hope this leads to your peace, whatever path that is. Be kind to yourself; you’re not weak for feeling hurt.

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Sister, you have my duas. It’s okay to grieve what you hoped for. May Allah give you clarity and surround you with supportive people. Please seek help for the mental health stuff too.

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