My thoughts on marriage in our community today

Assalamu alaikum everyone, just sharing some honest feelings about marriage among Muslims these days. It feels like many of us might have forgotten what it's truly about – getting married for the sake of Allah, not just for emotions or outward things. From what I notice, are people really praying istikhara and asking for Allah’s guidance before tying the knot? Or is it more about following what feels right in the moment? Where are the couples who marry wanting to help each other become better Muslims, to strengthen their deen together? Marriage should lift you up, not leave you exhausted. But all around, I see separations happening so fast, or people marrying for reasons that don’t align with our faith, and then feeling lost afterward. It’s sad how divided things seem. Sisters sometimes get caught up in unrealistic ideas from online, and brothers complain publicly instead of reflecting. There’s so much misunderstanding and hurt on both sides, and it feels like we’re drifting from the right path. I’m not sure how we fix this, but it worries me that some are putting off marriage for reasons that pull them away from family life, while others aren’t living up to the kindness and responsibility Islam teaches toward their spouses. Our ummah feels strained, and marriages are struggling. Instead of coming together, we’re adding to the problems. I just make du’a for all of us. For those having a hard time in their marriage. For anyone feeling unseen or hurt by their partner. For the young Muslims who want to marry rightly but face obstacles. For the brothers striving to do right despite tough expectations. For the sisters who enter marriage with good hearts and face disappointment. May Allah guide us, mend our hearts, and fill our marriages with barakah and sincerity. Ameen.