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My mother has passed away, and I feel it’s my fault

My mother passed away around Wednesday from a sudden heart attack. She was never sick before, always full of life and almost 40 years old. She was small like a young girl, even with two grown kids, but recently she gained weight, fell into depression, and had weight loss surgery because family kept pressuring her about her weight. One risk of that surgery is fast fat loss, which can harm your arteries and heart. She used to be very depressed, often saying she would take her own life, but I reminded her it’s haram. She’d reply, 'It’s not like Allah cares; I don’t pray anymore.' She was the most religious person I knew, until the depression hit. She never went to therapy, just relied on anxiety pills, but in the end, she passed away peacefully without pain. Has Allah forgiven her? She missed her late father so much. Just minutes before she passed, she seemed to know, and she told me to be there for her ghusl, take her phone, and gave other instructions. It’s been about 40 hours since burial. What’s her state now? Did she answer the angels’ questions correctly? Was the angel of death gentle with her? Is she with her father, talking about us? Is she happy? Is her body safe? She’s buried near a mosque wall; I pray nothing harms her beautiful, precious face.

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My heart aches for you. It's not your fault, depression is a heavy test. Allah is the Most Merciful, He sees her pain.

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Sis, don’t blame yourself. You reminded her it's haram, you did your part. May Allah envelop her in His forgiveness.

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My mother left too quickly. These signs she gave you ... hold on to them. Allah's mercy is bigger than her sins.

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I'm crying. She passed in a state where she remembered Allah enough to instruct you. Keep making duaa for her.

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As a depressed mom myself, your mother loved you so much. Her last words prove it. InshaAllah she's resting in peace now.

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Allah yarhamha. You're not responsible for her death. The depression stole her light, but you were her light.

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I'm so sorry, ukhti. Her asking for ghusl shows faith was still in her heart. Allah will not let that go unnoticed.

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