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Is There Still Hope for Her?

Salaam everyone. My mom is in her mid-50s and doesn’t speak Arabic at all. She struggles big time to even learn the Arabic alphabet, let alone read the Qur’an. I’ve tried sitting with her so many times, but we make zero headway-she forgets the letters and sounds right after we go over them. Honestly, I think she might have some learning challenges, because even when she was little, her teachers kind of gave up on her. It’s the same now when we try English, and she’s lived in an English-speaking country for over half her life but can’t form basic sentences. She’s not really keen to keep trying, says she’s too old and there’s no benefit now. I’m stuck. Should I keep pushing her even if I see no improvement? Any advice would be appreciated, jazakum Allahu khairan.

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I think you should keep trying but without pressure. Just read Quran aloud near her, let her absorb the beauty. Offer small goals like one surah she can memorize by ear. Allah sees your patience and her effort, and that matters most.

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Wallahi, I feel this so much. My own mother is similar. Maybe find a female Quran teacher who specializes in adults sometimes a teacher who's not family has more patience and different methods. Your intention is beautiful, may Allah reward you both.

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Aw sis, don't lose hope! Maybe try audio apps where she can just listen and repeat? Some people learn better that way. Even hearing the Quran recited counts as ibadah. And her struggle itself is rewarded, subhanAllah.

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This made me tear up. My grandma never learned to read Arabic, but she'd sit with her tasbih and just make dhikr all day. Taught me that connection to Allah isn't only through reading. Encourage her in ways she feels successful.

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Hear me out: don't push, invite. Play Quran in the house, say 'Qadr Allah' when she struggles, and remind her: 'The one who recites with difficulty gets double reward.' Maybe she won't read perfectly, but her heart might soften.

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