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Is it okay to use pre-loved baby items?

Salam alaikum, My husband’s manager, who isn’t Muslim, kindly gave us a used stroller for our first child. My mom isn’t too happy about it. She says, ‘We have enough to give charity, so we shouldn’t be taking someone else’s charity.’ But I don’t see any issue with accepting this gift. I believe the manager offered it with good intentions, and reusing things seems perfectly fine to me. Now I’m a bit unsure, though. I love my mom, but sometimes her beliefs aren’t rooted in Islam, and I haven’t found any reliable source that says second-hand items are problematic in our faith. She also worries about things carrying bad vibes, but I don’t buy into that. My husband and I feel it’s practical to save money and use pre-loved stuff, even for our first baby. We’re financially comfortable but careful with spending. As new parents, we think it’s smart to reuse things unless there’s a hygiene concern. JazakAllah khair for your advice. How can I help my mom see that this is okay?

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You’re absolutely right-Islam doesn’t forbid second-hand items. Maybe show her hadith about not being wasteful? She’ll come around, insha’Allah. Hugs!

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My mom was the same about second-hand stuff saying it brings bad energy. But that’s cultural superstition, not Islam. I just smiled, took the gift, and she got over it.

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Sis, your mom is sweet but overthinking. Islam encourages moderation and not wasting resources. As long as it's clean, there's no harm. People gift things out of kindness, not charity.

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I used so many second-hand things for my baby, alhamdulillah it saved us loads. As long as intentions are pure, don’t stress. Your mom just needs gentle reminding.

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Nothing wrong with pre-loved items. The Prophet (peace be upon him) lived simply and accepted gifts. Tell your mom it's environmental and Islamic to reuse!

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Girl, take the stroller! In our deen, there’s no concept of bad vibes from objects. That’s cultural baggage. Your husband's manager was being generous-accept with gratitude.

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