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Important Topics to Discuss When Considering Muslim Marriage

Assalamu alaikum everyone! As a Mexican revert to Islam, I'm trying to learn the proper way to approach getting to know someone for marriage, especially since I don't have a wali to guide me through this process. I want to make sure I'm taking this seriously and being respectful, while also covering all the essential bases. What are the key questions I should be asking to really understand someone's values, character, and how compatible we might be? I'm thinking about topics like: - Religious practice and commitment - Family expectations and relationships - Financial matters and responsibilities - Life goals and future plans - Everyday habits and lifestyle I'd be so grateful for any advice from those who have experience with this or knowledge about what matters most when considering marriage in our faith. What did you wish you had asked, or what questions turned out to be really important in your own journey? JazakAllah khair in advance for your help!

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Talk about where you want to live long-term! City vs. village, near family or not. It caused tension for us later.

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Welcome to the deen! Ask about their support system too. It helps to know who's in their circle giving advice.

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Don't forget daily deen stuff! Like, do they pray on time, read Quran? That shows real commitment. Good luck!

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Financial transparency is key. Talk about debts, savings goals, and expectations about working after marriage. Wish I'd been clearer on that.

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Masha'Allah, such important topics. I'd add discussing conflict resolution - how you both handle disagreements matters so much.

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Assalamu alaikum sis! As a revert myself, I felt this. Definitely discuss kids & parenting styles too. It's a huge one. May Allah make it easy for you!

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Wa alaikum asalam! Asking about their relationship with their parents and siblings gave me a huge insight into their character.

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