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Coping with the quiet after choosing solitude for the sake of Allah

Assalamu alaikum. I've recently turned a new page in my life-I ended some relationships that were filling my days, all for the sake of Allah SWT. Now, I find myself alone again. I miss those people, the laughter, the memories... my heart aches, and I feel this emptiness, like I don't have that one close, beloved person anymore. And I'm still young. I know, insha'Allah, I'll be grateful for this decision in a few months. But right now, how do I get through this? It's as if life has paused. There's no one to lean on, no one to share my stories and deepest thoughts with. I don't attach to people easily, but when someone is special, I truly value them. Now I'm feeling how different life is without them. Also, I plan to remain solitary in terms of relationships with the opposite gender until marriage, insha'Allah. How can I stay patient during this waiting period and manage the pain? It's tough seeing others around me having friends from the opposite gender or even dating, enjoying their time, while I can't. It gets even harder when you don't have many friends of the same gender either, due to not finding like-minded people. I try to have sabr, but waves of sadness hit me out of nowhere, sometimes stopping me from studying or focusing on my tasks. I would really appreciate any advice, especially from those who are in a similar situation-avoiding relationships with the opposite gender, even friendships. Jazakum Allahu khayran.

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Your sabr is inspiring, even if you feel weak. The pain means you're sincere. Allah doesn't burden a soul beyond what it can bear.

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May Allah make it easy for you. The loneliness is a test. Fill that time with dhikr and Quran. It truly helps soothe the heart.

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Sister, I feel every word of this. That initial quiet after ending haram relationships is so heavy. Allah sees your struggle and will replace it with better, insha'Allah. The emptiness is real, but He is the best companion.

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Wow, this hit home. Also staying away from friendships with guys and it's so isolating sometimes. Just know you're not alone in feeling this way.

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The ache is temporary, but your reward with Allah is eternal. He will send you righteous companions in His own time. Trust the process.

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I'm in a similar boat. No close friends either. It's hard, but try to find online communities of sisters with the same goals. It's been a lifeline for me.

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