I regret what happened - may Allah forgive me
Assalamu Alaikum, I can’t keep this inside any longer. I’ve been drowning in guilt and sadness, and I don’t recognize myself anymore. I truly hope Allah forgives me. When I look in the mirror I often start crying from shame because I broke a promise I made to myself by getting into a haram relationship and abandoning my own morals. It all began when I started university and didn’t know anyone. I felt really lonely. Before that I had been talking online to a young man I never intended to meet - he was a few years older and we seemed to connect because of similar family backgrounds and life experiences. At first he seemed kind, so I felt safe and didn’t expect him to behave so poorly. When uni began my loneliness made me agree to meet him. He had been asking for months and I’d always said no, but that first time felt normal. Over time things got worse: he pressured me to cuddle and do things I didn’t want, touched me in places that made me uncomfortable, and kept insisting he doesn’t “have girls as friends.” I think I was manipulated by someone who put up a pious front - he even presented himself as religious - but whenever I mentioned faith he would criticize me, say I wasn’t a good Muslim for not wearing the hijab, and speak harshly about my family and beliefs. He told me about his own loneliness and depression, which triggered my desire to help, but he would make me cry and then laugh, saying he didn’t care. He judged how I dressed and insulted me, accusing me of things I’d never done, while he’d had relationships with other women. He called me selfish for enjoying little things, and tried to shame my lifestyle. We eventually stopped talking, and I was left feeling very low. Maybe it was a painful lesson, but after this I chose to wear the hijab for myself and for Allah. I wanted to be respected and not be seen in a degrading way by any man. I feel more at peace now, and I pray I never have to go through that exhausting, tearful path again. Please make dua for me - I’m asking Allah for forgiveness and strength.