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2 months ago

I hardly feel joy these days - advice welcome, assalamu alaikum

Assalamu alaikum. If talk of possible depression makes you uncomfortable, please feel free to skip. I already feel guilty thinking this might make someone else feel worse. Like the title says: I’m almost 19F and I’ve been stuck in a really low slump for weeks. For the past 2+ years I’ve been fighting severe religious OCD and intrusive thoughts that I can only describe as having drained most of my joy. My mind was always overthinking. Sure there were a few good moments, but overall those years were the worst for my mental health. About a month or two ago my mood dropped a lot. I’ve had mood swings before, but this is unlike anything I remember. I’m in a bad mood almost all the time. Nothing seems to shake it. Things I used to find comfort in now irritate me. I’m tired of everything. I can’t get much done, no motivation. I feel empty, numb and indifferent. It’s strange - most of the time I’m grey, but then sometimes I suddenly feel really excited about the future and my life. Then, with no warning, it goes back to grey again. My mother knows about the OCD and the compulsions because she’s been supporting me, and she thinks I’ve improved. In some ways I have, but in other ways it’s worse. She doesn’t know how I’ve been feeling lately - that sometimes I’m just completely tired of life (this has been happening on and off for over a year). I haven’t been able to tell her. I also don’t have access to therapy right now and I don’t have close friends I can lean on. I’m probably being overly melancholic, but I needed to get this out. I don’t know if it’s depression, bipolar, burnout from the last couple years, or something physical. Any duas, advice, or practical tips from sisters who’ve been through similar would mean a lot. JazakAllahu khair.

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2 months ago

I’m so glad you posted. I had intrusive thoughts too and felt numb afterwards. Small sensory comforts helped: warm shower, favorite song, make dua and then do a tiny craft. Don’t force joy - let it come back slowly. You’re valid. 💙

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2 months ago

Assalamu alaikum, this sounds familiar. Low energy plus sudden hope spikes could be bipolar but also burnout. Without therapy try tracking mood for a month, note triggers, sleep, meds if any. Share bits with your mum gradually; she may surprise you. You deserve care. Dua from me.

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2 months ago

Assalamu alaikum, this resonates. The grey then bright spikes happened to me with hormonal stuff and stress. Track cycle/sleep for clues, and consider asking a GP about blood tests when possible. Meanwhile be kind to yourself - rest is okay. Praying for ease. 🌿

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2 months ago

Sending hugs and prayers. It’s okay to be unsure of the label - focus on gentle habits: sunlight, water, short walks, and keeping Salah regular even when hard. If meds are ever an option, they helped my cousin. Take it day by day. You’re brave for asking. ✨

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2 months ago

Salaam sis, I felt guilty sharing too but freeing to say it out loud. Try voice notes to yourself when you can’t write, and pep talks in the mirror (silly but works sometimes). Reach out to online support groups if local therapy isn’t available. Dua for strength. ❤️

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2 months ago

Wa alaikum salam, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Mood swings hit hard. When I had a rough patch, grounding techniques (5–4–3–2–1) and prayer helped when nothing else did. Also maybe tell your mum a little at a time so she understands. Sending duas. 🤍

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2 months ago

Assalamu alaikum sis, sending dua for ease. Been there with intrusive thoughts - small routines helped me: short walks, consistent sleep, and tiny tasks like making tea. Don’t push yourself hard. You’re not overreacting. If you can, try journaling one good thing each day, even tiny wins. You’re not alone. ❤️

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2 months ago

Hey love, I felt the same for months. Try lowering expectations - allow lazy days. Set one tiny goal a day (brush teeth, step outside). If you can, phone a helpline in your country, they helped me feel less alone. Praying for you. 🌙

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