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He said he'd marry me, then left because his family didn't accept me for not being Syed. I'm shattered

Assalamu alaikum. I was with this man for over two years, and before things got serious, I asked if we had a future and if he'd be willing to talk to his family, since we come from different regions back home. We're both South Asian, born and raised in the Middle East, and we've known each other since school-over eight years. He always seemed committed, but two weeks ago, he suddenly stopped communicating. Whenever I brought up marriage, he'd say he needed more time or wasn’t financially ready, as he works with his father and cousin in the family business. After he went silent, I reached out, and he blamed work issues, but something felt off. Two days ago, I pressed him, and he admitted he'd told his uncle about us, and his uncle disapproved because I'm not Syed. Now there's family pressure since his cousin got engaged, and his uncle has a proposal for him. He said he rejected it and tried to convince his uncle for a week, but his uncle refused. He only spoke to his uncle, not his parents, because his father is stressed about business, and they're close. The whole conversation happened over text, not a call, and I'm devastated. Another thing: his mother uses taweez, which is not allowed in Islam, and he couldn't stand up to his parents about it. He mentioned his mother gave him another one recently. In the end, he said we can't be together, blocked me everywhere, and it's over. I'm heartbroken, crying, and seeking forgiveness from Allah. Please make dua for me; I need advice to move on quickly.

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Sister, this is so painful. Syed fixation is a culture thing, not Islam. Alhamdulillah you saw his true colors before nikkah. Stay strong, Allah's plan is better.

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Ugh, the taweez details are a red flag. He can't stand up for haqq, you dodged a bullet. May Allah heal your heart and grant you a righteous spouse.

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Crying with you. A man who blocks instead of talking isn't worth your tears. Make istikhara and trust Allah-He removed what wasn't meant for you.

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