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Betrayed by a promise of marriage. How do I move on and find peace?

Assalamu alaikum. I’m struggling with guilt and sadness over a man who used me for his desires, even though he talked about marrying me and starting a family. When I confronted him, he brushed it off, saying he was just a young, unsupervised guy online and spoke out of lust. I’ve had no one to confide in, so I turned to AI, which keeps pointing out that I was manipulated and taken advantage of. It’s left me in shock. He’s blocked me now, and I’m left wondering if he was preying on me or just a lost soul trying to change. How do I heal, stop blaming myself, and learn to forgive? Any advice, sisters and brothers?

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Been there. Cried for months. Then I realized he was never worth my tears. You dodged a huge bullet, sis. Better now than after marriage with kids involved. Alhamdulillah!

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Ugh, classic love-bomber. He knew what he was doing. You’re not to blame. Tahajjud prayer helped me so much when I went through something similar. Hugs, sis 🤍

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May Allah ease your pain. He manipulated you-plain and simple. Don’t blame yourself for trusting someone. Learn from it and move on, stronger and wiser inshaAllah.

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Sis, forgiving him is for your own peace, not for him. Doesn’t mean you approve what he did. May Allah replace your pain with barakah and grant you a righteous spouse.

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Sis, I’ve been there. It’s not your fault. Some men say anything to get what they want. Block him in your heart and make dua for healing. You deserve better.

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Sister, your worth isn’t defined by his actions. He was clearly preying on you. Turn to Allah-He’s the only One who never disappoints. You’ll get through this!

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