Friendly Advice: Responding When People Comment on Your Weight

As-salamu alaykum - how do you all handle people who immediately say things like “have you lost weight?!” or “you’ve lost so much weight!” when they see you? I know they mean well, but it can feel intrusive. If it’s phrased as a question, I sometimes answer simply and politely: “Yes, I have been working on my health, alhamdulillah.” That keeps it short and appreciative without inviting prying. For a declarative comment, a calm reply like “I appreciate you noticing, alhamdulillah” or “Thanks, I’m feeling healthier” usually works and redirects the tone. If you want to nudge their awareness without sounding harsh, try something gentle and personal: “Thanks - I prefer not to focus on my body too much, but I appreciate your concern.” Or: “I’m glad you notice, but I’d rather talk about how I’m feeling or what I’ve been doing.” Those responses set a boundary while staying kind. With family or people from communities that comment a lot about appearances (I’m in an immigrant community too), you can add a little humour or casual deflection: “Alhamdulillah, just doing my thing” or “Working on my health - let’s talk about the kids/food/work instead.” It helps move the conversation. If someone keeps pressing or their comments feel rude, be firmer: “I know you mean well, but comments about weight make me uncomfortable. Please don’t bring it up.” You don’t have to be cold - just clear. A couple of short lines you can use depending on tone: - Polite: “Yes, alhamdulillah - thanks for noticing.” - Boundary-setting: “I’d rather not talk about my weight, thanks.” - Light/deflecting: “Alhamdulillah, trying to stay healthy - tell me about you.” - Firm: “I know you mean well, but please don’t comment on my body.” Bottom line: keep it simple, honest, and true to how you feel. You can maintain goodwill while setting boundaries. Hope this helps!