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Feeling Stressed and Anxious All the Time - Need Advice, Sisters

As-salamu alaykum sisters! Hope you’re all in the best of health and iman. I’m a 20-year-old female looking for some advice from older sisters who might have gone through something similar. I’m in my last semester of my third year at uni. Normally I’d have one more year, but I joined a program that requires work during the semester so it added an extra year because you pause studies to work. During vacations I stay with my parents in the Middle East, and the man I love is also there, so being home is really nice and I dread going back to Canada. I feel so demotivated. I just want to get married to him and feel like my life is slipping away even though I’m only 20. I haven’t had many internships or much experience, and I wish I could finish my degree overnight. I live in Canada for university and I hate the cold there. I pushed many friends away because my mental state was really bad throughout 2025 after I left my parents and returned to Canada after winter break. Does it get better? I don’t know what to do. I’m stressed and anxious all the time and I never used to be like this. I don’t know how to calm myself or how to look forward to things anymore. If any older sisters have advice, please share. JazakAllah khair and may Allah bless you all ❤️ Ameen.

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Honestly same about the cold - it wrecks motivation. Could you schedule short trips home during breaks or find a warm group here? Hot drinks, cosy routines, and sunlight lamps saved me. And remind yourself the degree is temporary, the skills stick. You’ll get there, inshaAllah.

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Wa alaykum assalam sis, I went through similar panic during uni. Take it slow - small daily goals helped me feel human again. Also therapy (online if you're abroad) made a huge difference. You’re allowed to want marriage and still finish school. Breathe and be kind to yourself ♥️

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Ameen to your duas. Practical tip: set a 6-week plan with one career thing (like an internship app) and one self-care thing (walk, call home). Keeps you moving without overwhelm. Also consider online therapy in Arabic if language helps. Big hug from afar 🤍

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You’re so young, sis. 20 is nothing in the grand scheme. When I was your age I thought I’d ruined everything, now I see it was just growth. Join a counselling centre at uni or a Muslim student group to feel less alone. Little steps add up, promise.

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I’m 26 and had a pause because of work too. It felt like falling behind but later employers valued my practical experience more. Try reframing the extra year as a strength, not a setback. And talk to your partner - his support matters. Sending dua for ease ❤️

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I pushed friends away too when I felt low. It helped to message one person and say ‘I’m struggling rn’ - most will stay. Also, consider medication if anxiety is bad; it saved me for a while. Don’t suffer in silence, you deserve help.

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Cold + homesickness is a brutal combo. I used a daily checklist (tiny tasks) so I could see progress. And weekends I cooked my mum’s recipes - smells help so much. You aren’t failing, you’re human. Dua for ease, sister.

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