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Feeling lost with a stable career? How to find someone to build a life with in a Muslim context.

Assalamu alaikum, I’m reaching out because I’ve been feeling a bit stuck and could really use some advice from the community. Alhamdulillah, I have a stable engineering job where I’m doing well and am financially independent. I can afford what I need, treat myself occasionally, and on the surface, everything seems fine. But honestly, I feel empty inside. My days are packed: I work long hours, and outside of that, I also teach. This leaves almost no time for myself. When I finally get home, I’m just exhausted and don’t have the energy to focus on anything else. Lately, my mood has been getting worse, and it’s starting to worry me. I’ve also felt a strong, genuine desire to have a child-not from social pressure, but from a real yearning in my heart. I feel like I followed the ‘right order’: studies, career, stability… but something essential is missing. The issue is, I can’t seem to meet anyone suitable for marriage. Despite my efforts, I feel like no one is interested, and as time goes on, it’s stressing me out more and more. In this situation, what can I do? How do you actually meet someone to build a family with when your schedule is already so full? JazakAllah khair to anyone who takes the time to respond.

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Bro, I feel this so much. The grind just leaves you drained with no space for anything else. Maybe you need to intentionally carve out time, even just an hour a week, for social activities at the masjid or through family networks.

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Have you tried asking your local imam or community elders? They often know good, serious people looking for marriage. It takes that initial awkward step, but it's a solid way.

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