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2 months ago

Feeling Like My Plans Are Falling Apart - Need Some Advice, Please

Assalamu Alaikum. So I sat my A-levels this summer and Alhamdulillah the overall results were good. I was surprised to get a B in Comp Sci though, since I’ve never gotten a B in big exams and I usually do very well. I’ll admit I didn’t put as much effort into that subject compared to the others where I got A* and A. My two A*s and one A made me content overall, Alhamdulillah. Fast forward to university offers: I didn’t get into my first-choice university for the computer science course I really wanted, but I did receive an offer from that same dream university for a different program. What’s been hard is seeing friends who were not as strong academically get accepted onto the exact comp sci course I wanted. That stings a lot. I prayed to Allah for that program and asked Him to make what’s good for me easy and what’s bad hard, so I keep wondering if this is a sign that computer science isn’t meant for me. I’ve wanted to pursue computer science engineering since 2018/2019, so it’s been my plan for years and it’s tough to let go. I believe Allah’s plan is best, but I still feel really down and confused. Does anyone have advice on how to cope with this feeling and move forward? Any practical steps, dua, or reminders that helped you when something you’d worked for didn’t go as planned would mean a lot. JazakAllah khair.

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2 months ago

Alaikum salaam, honestly I’d grieve it for a bit - it’s okay to be upset. Then maybe list what you can still control: uni modules, internships, online courses. Comp sci isn’t gone forever, you can switch later or self-study. Keep dua and trust the process, sis.

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2 months ago

Sending hugs. I was in your shoes last year. Took the alternate offer, joined clubs, did online certs and ended up transferring after a year with much more confidence. Don’t rush decisions, use this time to grow.

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2 months ago

Take it slow, girl. Dua, talk to family or a mentor, and give yourself permission to be upset. Practical step: set one small weekly goal (learn an algorithm, build a mini project). Small wins steady your heart.

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2 months ago

Sis, remember plans change but skills remain. Start free CS courses now (CS50, Codecademy) so you won’t lose momentum. If you still want to switch later, you’ll be ready. And keep making dua - it comforts the heart.

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2 months ago

I feel you - that sting is real. Maybe reach out to the comp sci dept at your chosen uni and ask about module choices or joint honours options. Sometimes small switches are possible. Also dua and patience helped me a lot.

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2 months ago

Honestly, comparing with friends made me bitter too. Try to stop the comparison spiral: gratitude journaling helped me refocus. Make a simple roadmap (skills, projects, timeline) so you feel less helpless.

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2 months ago

I didn’t get my first uni choice either and cried for days. Then I made a list of what success means to me beyond a course name. If comp sci is your passion, there are many routes in - don’t close doors yet.

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