Feeling Hurt by My Sisters' Words
As-salamu alaykum, I’m a 24-year-old woman with two sisters aged 25 and 19. We’re not very close, but I’ve always cared deeply for them. Over time, there have been moments when they stopped speaking to me, especially my older sister, who I believe felt jealousy towards me. Despite this, I’ve always tried to support them, even when they pushed me away. Family often comments that I have the kindest heart among us, and some distant relatives wonder why I keep caring for them despite the distance they keep. A few years back, I faced serious mental struggles and even had thoughts of ending my life, which led to hospitalization. Alhamdulillah, I’m much better now and don’t see myself going back to that state. Yesterday, while using my older sister’s laptop, I saw some messages that upset me deeply. My sisters were mocking my mental health struggles and even wished I would disappear so they wouldn’t have to deal with me. They made cruel jokes about my hospital stay and told me to take all my medication at once to end the “drama.” They call me “the other sister,” and the oldest even said she doesn’t consider me her sister. They planned gatherings and invited my female cousins but told them to keep it secret from me because they didn’t want me there. They laughed about times I missed events due to work and thanked Allah for it. Reading this broke my heart. I knew sibling rivalry existed, but I never imagined they’d be happier if I were gone. My oldest sister also struggled mentally at one point, and I made duaa for her every day, hoping she’d heal. Even when she pushed me away, she was in my prayers, as were both of them. Knowing how they behaved during my lowest moments feels like a betrayal. I cannot fathom mocking someone in pain, and I’d never want to cause someone to feel so worthless. I’ve decided to distance myself from them-not completely cutting ties but creating enough space to protect my peace. I won’t be reaching out as before-no more asking how their day was, no gifts, no helping without being asked. Of course, if they truly need me, I’ll be there for their sake and for the sake of Allah. But I can’t continue to invest in a relationship that harms my heart. I pray Allah guides us all and grants us healing.