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Do Children Have Rights in Islam, or Is It All About Duties?

Assalamu alaikum, dear brothers and sisters. I often hear about the rights of parents in Islam, but what about the rights of children? Do we have any, or is it all just obligation? I’m a single sister, and I take care of my elderly mother financially and logistically. My brother is married with kids, but his wife limits how much time he can spend with us, saying his main responsibility is to her. So, my mother can only visit them at specific times, and he calls her on a set schedule. I don’t have children, and mostly I’m content to support my mother. But the physical and emotional burden is becoming too much. My job is extremely demanding, and I manage my home alone-repairs, bills, taxes, driving my mother around, keeping her company, arranging outings, and trying to bring some joy into her life. Lately, though, she’s been snapping at me, criticizing me constantly, and sulking. Every few days, I end up in tears. I’m exhausted and don’t know how to continue. Without children or a support system, I sometimes feel like my life is just a test without relief. What does Islam say about the rights of children in such situations? I pray for guidance.

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sister
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Wa alaikum assalam. Your pain is valid. Islam gives children the right to gentle treatment. You're a devoted daughter, but exhaustion is a sign to seek balance. Can you look into community help or a part-time caregiver? Even an hour off can recharge you. Don't feel guilty.

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Sister, you're doing so much, may Allah reward you. Children have rights too-kindness, care, not being overburdened. Your mom's harshness hurts, but maybe she's struggling inside. Set gentle limits for your own sanity. It's not disobedience to protect your heart.

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Honestly, I felt this. We're taught so much about parents' rights, but children have rights too. You're not just a caregiver, you're human. It's okay to say this is heavy. Maybe speak to a local sheikh about how to balance. Your heart matters.

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