Coincidence or Qadr? A Jummah Encounter
Assalamu alaikum, everyone. I had a funny thing happen today after Jummah and wanted to share 😅. About six months ago a brother spoke to me outside the masjid after prayer and asked if I was interested in marriage. I wasn’t looking then, so I politely declined. Today, of all days, I saw him again outside the masjid after Jummah 😅. He greeted me with “Assalamu alaikum” and I said “Walaikum assalam.” He asked if he could ask me something, so I said okay since we were outside. He asked how I was and I answered “Alhamdulillah.” Then, as I kind of expected, he asked if I might be open to marriage now. I laughed a bit and said, “No, sorry, still not interested.” He told me I should start looking because we’re getting older (he’s 32 and I’m 27). I replied that I’m not rushing anything - if it’s Allah’s will then inshaAllah in the future, but right now I’m focused on other things. To be honest, he seems like a good man. MashAllah he has many qualities people look for in a husband: practicing, knowledgeable (he studied Islamic studies in Egypt and Madinah), financially stable, loves learning, wants to do dawah, and plans to move to a Muslim country after marriage. He even knows the imam who witnessed my shahada. He really wants to marry soon, and I feel a bit bad for turning him down twice, but I’m genuinely enjoying single life right now. I’m planning to do my masters and hope to pursue my dream of becoming a flight attendant next year inshaAllah, so marriage isn’t for me at the moment. Sometimes, when I’m daydreaming, I do like the idea of raising a Muslim family - especially as a revert - but deep down I know I’m not ready. So I’m left wondering if today was a sign from Allah (swt) or just coincidence, since we hadn’t met in so long. Either way, my priority is personal growth: enjoying being single, chasing my goals, traveling, learning, and improving my deen to become a better Muslimah. May Allah (swt) forgive me for declining him and grant him a righteous wife who is best for him. Ameen 🤲