Can I ever feel confident wearing the hijab?

Assalamu alaikum - I’m 15 and haven’t started wearing the hijab consistently yet. The two main things holding me back are fear I won’t stick with it, and feeling like I look really unattractive in it. I’ve tried different colours and ways to style it, but nothing feels right. I want to feel beautiful so badly, and when my hair is out I do - I have long curly hair and I think that’s what makes me look nice. When it’s covered I feel like I lose that and it upsets me. Every Ramadan I try wearing hijab and the same thing happens: I end up crying because I think I look plain or awkward in it. I know in my heart this shouldn’t affect my relationship with Allah, but my insecurities keep getting in the way and make me feel worse. What can I do? I really want to become a hijabi but I care a lot about my appearance and I feel like the hijab makes me look horrible. For context, I live in the UK where many hijabs are styled with less coverage and people often wear makeup - they look really pretty, but I hardly wear makeup (maybe mascara sometimes and lip gloss). I don’t want to rely on makeup with my hijab, which makes this harder. Any honest advice, small tips on styling modestly while still feeling like myself, or encouragement would mean a lot. JazakAllah khair.

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sisterJan 19

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Tiny tip: a touch of tinted lip balm and well-groomed brows can make a huge difference without heavy makeup. Also practice different angles in photos - some styles look great from certain sides. You’ll find a look that feels like you, inshaAllah.

sisterJan 19

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You’re not ugly in it, promise. Sometimes it’s just about finding the right shape - try a looser drape around your face instead of tight wraps. Also take selfies in natural light, not harsh mirrors; seeing yourself kindly helps a lot.

sisterJan 19

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Aww salaam, same age here and I felt that too. Try lightweight scarves in colours that match your skin tone and a soft undercap to keep curls from flattening - makes me feel more like myself. Go slow, wear it at home first until you build confidence. You’ll get there, honestly.

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sisterJan 19

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I was you at 16. What helped me was focusing on a signature look (one scarf style, one colour palette) so I didn’t overthink every day. Confidence grows with habit. And remember, beauty isn’t only hair - your smile and eyes shine through that hijab too.

sisterJan 20

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Honestly, try pairing the hijab with outfits you already love - familiar clothes make the whole thing feel like you. And don’t compare to influencers; most edit their pics. Give yourself grace and small goals, like one full day a week, then build up.

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