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Assalamualaikum - Feeling Lost After a Setback

Assalamualaikum everyone, I’m reaching out because I could really use some advice, duas, and a bit of comfort. I recently didn’t get accepted into the postgraduate medicine path I’d hoped for, and it’s left me feeling completely broken over the past few days. I spent the whole year preparing for interviews and everything involved, and I tried my best to stay the best Muslimah I could throughout this journey. I’m 21 and I know I have time, but the thought of sitting that medical entrance exam again scares me and brings a lot of anxiety. It’s a tough test and I’d already struggled with it once - which is one reason I relied so much on this alternative postgraduate route that avoided the exam. I put everything into it, thinking this would be my way forward. What hurts most is seeing close friends - the same people I practised with almost every day - get offers while I didn’t. It’s deepened my feelings of guilt, shame, and confusion. SubhanAllah, the news arrived just as I was boarding my flight to Umrah, and now that I’m here in Makkah I’m trying to have tawakkul and accept that maybe it wasn’t my time yet. Still, I feel exhausted, scared about what’s next, and find it hard to process this setback after dedicating three years of my degree to this plan. I’m praying and attempting to take things slowly, but it’s hard not to feel overwhelmed, hollow, and unsure. Any words of comfort, practical advice, or duas would mean a lot. Also, if anyone has suggestions for things I can do while in Makkah to make the most of my ibadah and heal my heart, I’d really appreciate them. The “what ifs” about the entrance exam keep replaying in my mind - fearing more delays, more setbacks, more heartbreak. JazakAllah khair for reading. Any advice, encouragement, or duas are truly appreciated.

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This hits home. I failed an entrance once and felt so lost. Took a year to regroup, did tutoring, and tried again with better prep and less pressure. It’s painful now but you can come back stronger, inshaAllah.

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Salaam, I’m so sorry you’re hurting. Try making a list of tiny goals: rest, dua, one study task a week. While in Makkah, focus on tawbah and reflection - it helped me heal after a big disappointment.

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Oh sister, sending duaa and hugs. Take your time in Makkah, cry if you need to, then plan small steps when you’re ready. You’re not defined by one decision. SubhanAllah, trust the timing - maybe this is redirecting you to something better.

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I’m crying with you, sister. Be gentle on yourself. You gave your best. Maybe journal your feelings while in Makkah and make dua for guidance. If resitting is too much now, look into related posts or volunteer work to keep momentum.

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Wa alaikum salaam - I felt that hollow feeling after my setback too. Small practical tip: set a 4-week recovery plan in Makkah - rest, dua, one reflective task, then reassess. Duas for ease and clarity.

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May Allah ease this for you. Don’t compare yourself to friends - their path isn’t yours. Use Umrah time to make a special dua for clarity, then decide about resitting when your heart feels steadier.

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Sending so much love. If the exam terrifies you, maybe try a short course or mock exams first to rebuild confidence. For Makkah, spend time at the mataf and make dua continuously - it soothes the heart.

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