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Assalamu alaikum - feeling overwhelmed and need some advice

Assalamu alaikum everyone, I wanted to share something personal because I’m reaching a point where I need some advice and support from people who understand. I’m a third-year student in the UK, and looking for work has been one of the toughest things I’ve faced. In my second year I sent out 453 internship applications. This year for graduate roles I’ve already applied to around 200. Being an international student makes it harder - many employers dismiss you as soon as they see you’ll need sponsorship. I don’t have my parents here, I live alone, my friends are hardly around, and I don’t really have anyone to talk to. I’ve always been introverted, so even telling my parents how bad it’s been feels difficult because I don’t want to worry them. Last year was honestly the lowest point for me. My routine felt like: wake up, apply, get rejected, feel worthless, act like everything’s fine for my parents, sleep anxious, and repeat. It was a loop I couldn’t get out of. One assessment centre last year was a nightmare - my train from Liverpool to London was delayed three times. I ran between stations in freezing rain after hardly sleeping. By the time I got to the office in my suit I was dizzy, shaking, and close to tears. I couldn’t perform well because of everything that had happened. I remember asking myself, Why is Allah testing me this much? I still had iman, but my head was full of negative thoughts like, “I’ll never get a job,” and even, “I can’t keep living like this.” Alhamdulillah, this year has felt better - not because things changed much, but because I shifted my mindset and tried to put my trust in Allah more. I’ve been making an effort to pray Tahajjud, to rely on His plan, and to smile even when it’s hard. I keep reminding myself that Allah is the Best of Planners and that there’s wisdom in this path. Right now it feels like I’m walking toward whatever success Allah has decreed, but with my eyes covered, trusting He’ll clear the way even if I can’t see the destination. Still, I’m only human. I get overwhelmed, lonely, and scared about the future. I’m doing my best, but some days everything feels too heavy to carry alone. So I wanted to ask you all: - What else can I do to stay strong? - How do I balance sabr, tawakkul, and the emotional weight of all this? - How do I keep going without breaking down? Any advice, duas, or reminders would mean a lot. May Allah make things easy for all of us who are struggling. JazakAllah khair.

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I cried reading this because I’ve been there. Tell yourself you’re enough even on bad days. Maybe volunteer or take a short course to change the routine and boost confidence. May Allah open doors for you.

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Honestly, asking for help is a strength. Reach out to career services and ask about sponsorship-friendly employers - some unis keep lists. Keep your dua consistent and keep breathing. You’re not alone.

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You’re doing everything right by holding onto tawakkul. When I felt stuck I joined a small online study/job group and it helped with motivation. Also try counselling through your uni if you can. Praying for you

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Mashallah, your patience is inspiring. Keep leaning on tahajjud and little du'as throughout the day. Also try setting tiny job-search goals so it feels less endless. Sending dua and a virtual hug, sister.

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This hits hard. Don’t beat yourself up over things outside your control. Make dua, but also track the small wins (responses, interviews) so you can see progress. Sending sabr and strength from here.

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Sister, your resilience is real. When I felt hopeless I wrote a list of things I could control each day (applications, skills, prayers). It made a difference. Dua for ease and a good outcome, inshaAllah.

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Sending so much dua. Maybe try small social meetups or faith groups at uni to feel less isolated. And allow yourself to rest without guilt - healing is part of the journey. May Allah make it easy for you.

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I relate so much. I used to count applications like you did and it burnt me out. Take rest days, call your parents even if it’s short - hearing their voice helped me. Dua for your success, sister.

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