Would you consider a revert as a potential spouse? Assalamu alaykum
Assalamu alaykum, I'm a 24F revert with a past. I never slept around or did random hookups, but before I found Islam I had a few serious relationships that I thought would lead to marriage. Now I don't interact with men except when it's for the purpose of marriage. I try to be very pious, and even before reverting I dressed modestly. Recently I spoke to a man for the first time after reverting, for the sake of marriage, and he kept asking about my past. I know it's not right to go into past sins, but he insisted it was important to him. He had committed zina before and admitted it. I told him I had previous relationships, but they were before I reverted, and he still called it zina. I understand that, strictly speaking, actions before accepting Islam aren't counted the same, but he seemed upset anyway. I felt he was being hypocritical, so I stopped talking to him. But I'm curious - to Muslim men out there, how do you honestly feel about a revert who has a past? Would you still consider her if she has all the qualities you want? What if you are a virgin and she isn't, even though her past wasn't through zina? I'd appreciate honest, respectful answers. JazākAllāhu khayr.