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Tips for Sharing My Journey with Non-Muslim Family

As'salamu alaykum, Here's my situation: I reverted to Islam, and I'm really struggling with hiding my prayers and taking off my hijab near my home. My parents aren't religious themselves, but they hold strong negative views about Arabs due to past experiences-like historical conflicts and current issues they hear about-so they mistakenly link Islam with Arab culture, even saying Black Muslims are just 'Arabized.' I've gently explained that Islam is universal and not all Arabs are Muslim, but they're set in their ways, which I understand given their generation. I've tried sharing verses from the Quran (framing it as educational reading), and they don't outright reject Islam, but progress stalls when they bring up stereotypes, like polygamy or mistreatment, questioning if I'd accept such things. I clarify Islamic teachings, but they counter with personal anecdotes about Arabs, making it tough to separate culture from faith. It's frustrating because I see their trauma, but I'm solely focused on my deen, not on what any group does. For fellow reverts, how did you approach telling your parents? I planned to wait until after uni, but lately, my mom's grown more resistant-making me change clothes and suspecting 'Arab friends'-even though she once said she'd accept any good spouse. Now she opposes me marrying a Muslim, which I'm not taking seriously, but it shows how their biases block understanding. How can I better prepare to communicate my perspective without dismissing their feelings? I'm so worn out by this, SubhanAllah.

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Maybe try sharing stories of diverse reverts from your country? Sometimes seeing people who look like us can break that Arab=Islam link for them.

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The generational trauma is real. It’s beautiful you acknowledge their pain while holding onto your deen. May Allah ease it for you.

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