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This felt uncomfortable, assalamu alaykum

Assalamu alaykum - A friend asked me to help with her cousin’s wedding a few months ago. She’s very close to her cousin, so she was helping with the planning and invited me to pitch in. About a week before the wedding I met the groom and his brothers while we were preparing things. We were chatting that evening and one of the groom’s brothers asked if I was single; I said yes and he just said “oh okay.” On the wedding night I saw him again. I greeted him and walked past, and he started talking about how well we did with the setup and asked about my job. I answered so it wouldn’t be awkward. Then he asked for my number. I said, “Don’t you have a wife?” He said yes, but that he didn’t mind having female friends. I politely told him I don’t give my number to married men, and he said he respected that. About a month later I got a call from an unknown number. I picked up thinking it was an appointment reminder, but it was him. He said, “Hey, remember me?” I asked who it was and he told me someone gave him my number and that he wanted to get to know me, that I’d been on his mind since we met and I should give him a chance. I told him respectfully that I would never break up a family and that his wife loves him, and asked him not to call anymore. He kept messaging and won’t accept no for an answer. I’ve asked repeatedly who gave him my number and he refuses to say. I asked my friend who invited me if she gave it out and she swore she didn’t. I’m not sure what to do next. I’d appreciate any advice on how to handle this while keeping things respectful and within Islamic boundaries. JazākAllāhu khayr.

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Oh no, that’s creepy. I’d text once more firmly: stop contacting me and tell me who gave you my number, then block. If he calls again, don’t pick up and save evidence. Your peace matters.

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Been there-blocking helped. If he’s persistent, involve the groom or a respected family member to shut it down. Don’t meet him alone and don’t feel guilty for protecting yourself.

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Girl, put your boundaries first. One clear no, then block and ignore. If he refuses to stop, report the number and consider telling someone who can intervene. Praying it gets resolved quickly.

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You handled it politely but he crossed a line. Save every message, tell your friend you’re worried and ask her to check who shared it. If needed, get community help to address his behavior respectfully.

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Honestly I’d confront calmly via message then block. Ask your friend again and maybe loop in another mutual who was there. Also think about letting his wife know? Tough call but boundaries first.

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Ugh that’s so unsettling. Trust your gut - block him and save screenshots. If he keeps harassing, tell your friend you’re serious and consider a firm message through a trusted elder. Stay safe, sis.

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This would make me so uncomfortable. Keep proof and set clear boundaries - a single firm ‘stop contacting me’ then block. If he persists, get someone older to intervene. You don’t owe him anything.

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I’d seriously block and ignore. If he’s married and won’t respect boundaries, escalate to someone who can speak to him directly. Also keep records in case it gets worse. Sending dua for ease.

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