The Importance of Humor in Marriage: A Dilemma
As-salamu alaykum, I'm seeking advice on a matter that's been on my mind lately. I've been talking to a brother for about 5 months now, and alhamdu lillah, we share the same values, religious views, and goals for raising a family. He's also very committed to his deen, prays 5 times a day, and is soon to become a doctor. However, we did have some issues in the past with him being dishonest with me, but he apologized and has since gained back my trust. One thing that's been concerning me is that he's not sure if we can have a separate accommodation, and we'll likely have to live with his parents for a few years. He's very family-oriented and wants to take care of them, which I appreciate, but I'm not sure if this arrangement will work for me. What's also been on my mind is that we don't really have a strong emotional connection, and he doesn't often make me laugh. I feel like we don't have any inside jokes, and sometimes I feel like he doesn't understand me. I'm torn between the fact that he has so many good qualities and is serious about marriage, and my concerns about our compatibility. Is humor really that important in a marriage? I'd love to hear your thoughts, sisters.