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5 months ago

Struggling with Wearing Hijab and Finding My Identity

Assalamu alaikum everyone, I wanted to share my feelings and hear your thoughts. I know my experience might not be typical or make perfect sense, but this is what I'm going through. I embraced Islam in 2021 when I was just 15, but I couldn't tell my family back then. Since then, I covered my body except for my head. Last year, I moved to Egypt and started wearing the hijab right away without thinking much about it. College life with hijab has been really tough. In Egypt, sometimes hijab is seen as a sign of a lower social class, which I don't mind much, but it changes how people treat me. Also, my identity as an American feels lost. When I wear hijab, people no longer see me as "white." Even though I have light skin and eyes, people often ask if I'm Syrian, Egyptian, or other nationalities. They get confused by my name and accent and sometimes treat me badly or laugh at me. They keep asking "where are you really from," even after I explain many times. I imagine life would be so much easier if I could just show my hair like before. My American identity would be clear, and no one would question it. On top of that, I have anxiety and OCD tendencies. For over a year, I've tried different hijab styles to feel comfortable, but I hate how tight it feels around my neck and how hard it is to breathe sometimes. I also have skin allergies and can only wear jersey fabric, which is awful in summer heat. I've tried everything to feel okay. All this has made me very depressed. Back in the USA, I never missed a prayer and Islam was everything to me, even before wearing hijab. But now, despite wearing it, I feel disconnected and less committed to my religious duties. I know it’s not the hijab itself causing this, but that’s how it feels. I just want to feel normal again. Honestly, I sometimes think about taking off the hijab. I know it’s not allowed, but it feels like the right choice for me right now. I accepted Islam for the freedom it gave me to believe. Please, if you have any advice or support, I’d really appreciate it. Jazakum Allah khair for reading.

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5 months ago

Ugh, that sounds really rough. I admire your honesty and courage. Maybe try lighter fabrics or looser styles? Sometimes small tweaks help with comfort.

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5 months ago

I totally get where you're coming from. Wearing hijab in a new country while dealing with identity stuff is so hard. Sending you strength, girl! You're not alone.

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5 months ago

It’s okay to feel conflicted. The hijab should be something that uplifts you, not weighs you down. Maybe talking to a counselor or a local sister could help?

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5 months ago

Don’t be too hard on yourself. Your faith is personal, and it’s okay to feel lost sometimes. Take your time to figure out what feels right without pressure.

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5 months ago

I’ve been in a somewhat similar spot. People’s questions about where I’m from used to annoy me so much. Just remember, your identity is yours to define, no one else’s.

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