Some Thoughts on Female Discharge and Ritual Purity

Assalamu alaikum, everyone. I've been thinking a lot about the rules of taharah, especially when it comes to natural discharge and fluids from arousal for women, and I feel like there's sometimes a gap between what the classical rulings say and what women actually go through in their daily lives. One reason I've heard for why arousal fluid is considered najis is because for men, it comes out through the same place as urine. Okay, that makes sense biologically for them. But for women, our anatomy is completely different – these fluids don't come from the urinary tract. So it makes me wonder why the same ruling is applied to us. And honestly, the daily reality can be tough. Generally, men are 'dry' unless something specific happens. But many women experience natural discharge throughout the entire day. This can turn maintaining wudu into a constant mental battle – checking, worrying, second-guessing if your prayer is still valid. For a lot of sisters, this easily leads to waswasa (whispers from Shaytan). I also have a hard time understanding the idea that after feeling aroused, a woman needs to wash her private area before praying. I get there might be a physical reason for men, but for women, it's not as clear to me. If it's about being in a certain 'state' that needs to be reset before salah, then why is this different from other physical states? For example, after exercise, your body goes through major changes – your heart races, you sweat, and yes, some women might have moisture in the private area too – but that doesn't require a special wash before prayer. So is this a purely ritual rule we follow without a clear physical reason? And if that's the case, how do we reconcile it with the fact that women's bodies are different and we might experience this more often? I think about how these rulings were developed. The Quran is clear about purification after using the bathroom, but other fluids were included through scholarly interpretation. Given how different women's bodies are, it makes me wonder if we need more nuance. I know in some madhabs, like the Maliki school, normal moisture is considered pure. Maybe the rules about 'arousal fluid' for women should be looked at again, since the logic about urine contamination doesn't really apply to our bodies? And how do we apply the beautiful Islamic principle that 'hardship brings ease' when so many women feel like they're constantly tracking their state of purity, which can be really stressful? I'm not trying to challenge anything – I'm sincerely trying to understand how these rulings connect to both their wisdom and to the real, lived experiences of Muslim women. I'd really appreciate hearing your thoughts, especially from sisters who've dealt with the stress of managing purity throughout the day.