Sis, Need Advice About a Man I Can’t Forget - JazakAllah for Any Help
Assalamu alaikum :) I’m 30F and, like you can probably guess, I want to get married - halal, someone who draws me closer to Allah, cares for me (not about money, but as a husband, companion, supporter). I’ve tried meeting people, and men do talk to me, but there’s one problem - I can’t forget a man I spoke to about a year (and a few months) ago. Usually I move on quickly even from relationships, but this time I haven’t. We only talked and exchanged photos (no haram), and we were far apart, so it seemed like Allah willed the distance. I deleted him thinking that would help. Then I moved to his city for work, and about 7 months ago I briefly saw him at a store - we just passed each other. The same day, an hour before, I had made dua asking Allah to show me who my future husband is and to send him my way. I don’t know if seeing him was an answer or just coincidence. I’ve been praying a lot - asking Allah to remove from my heart those who aren’t meant for me, to grant me a husband who pleases Him, to give me halal and stop me from wanting what isn’t mine. I’ve been doing tahajjud, lots of dua, istighfar, and I keep asking, but I feel stuck. I wake up for tahajjud, make sujood, and my mind goes to him. I even made dua that if he’s not doing tahajjud for my sake, then let me forget him completely because I don’t want someone who doesn’t want me. I want to marry - him or someone else, whatever Allah decides - but right now I feel like I’m stuck against a wall and can’t move forward or back. So my questions: - Has anyone been in this kind of situation? How did it turn out? - What duas or words should I say to get clarity or a change? I feel frozen and just want my heart to move on to love what’s right. - What should I increase or decrease in my worship or actions? - I’d love to hear stories of successful, halal love that worked out for you. JazakAllah khair for any advice and love 🫶