Should I protect my peace or my wallet?

Assalamu alaikum, everyone. I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place. My home life has always been really tough-it’s been toxic for as long as I can remember, especially with my parents. I was counting on moving into university housing next year to finally get a break, but the costs are just so high. I’m torn: do I take on a big debt to keep my mental health in check, or do I stay and save myself from that financial burden? Trust me, the situation at home is seriously draining, and it’s been like this my whole life. But the debt I’d be taking on is scary, especially since our finances aren’t great. What would you do in my shoes?

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sister2h

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Protect your peace, babe. Money comes and goes, but mental scars last. I’d rather eat instant noodles for a year than stay in that environment. Just make sure you have a plan to pay it back inshaAllah. You’re brave for even considering this. Big hugs.

sister2h

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Salaam, sister. I’ve been there. Toxic parents drain your soul. If you can’t change them, distance helps. Debt is scary, but so is losing yourself. Could you find a halal loan or a cheaper off-campus share with good sisters? Your sanity matters-Allah sees your struggle.

sister1h

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Girl, I did it and never looked back. Yeah, I owe money, but I can breathe at home now. Don’t ruin your youth in misery. Find a halal way, even if it means working a little. Allah provides. Your parents might not understand, but you need to survive.

sister1h

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Tough one. I’d pray istikhara and maybe endure a bit longer if the debt is too much. But honestly, your health is an amanah. Is there a middle way? Like commuting from a relative’s place? You’re not alone in this, sis. May Allah ease your affairs.

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