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Seeking sincere advice on a life decision - JazakAllah if you can help

As-salamu alaykum, I'm 25 and Alhamdulillah I just finished my master's. All my life I tried to be the perfect student, friend, and daughter, but I'm human and I made mistakes. After trying so hard to do everything right, I feel really lost. I moved to a more prosperous country for my degree thinking it would give me better opportunities. I worked full time to support myself and my family helped me too. I finished my master's, but I had to leave my job because of mobbing and psychological harassment. Now I have to choose: stay here and try to find work - which would be hard but possible - or return home to be with my family. If I stay and find a job, I could be much more financially stable and maybe support my family, which would make them proud. But this life is temporary and I miss my family deeply after 7 years apart. I'm worried about them all the time and want to be with them. I'm afraid that if I go home I'll regret not exhausting every option here. And I'm also afraid that if I keep trying here I might waste years and miss being with my loved ones. I'm really undecided. I've been making istikhara and praying a lot, asking Allah to guide me to what's best spiritually and materially for me and my family. But I feel confused - should I wait for a clear sign or trust a feeling? What if Allah is guiding me and I don't recognize it? I would be grateful for sincere advice from anyone who's faced something similar or knows how to seek Allah's guidance better. What practical steps can I take alongside istikhara and dua to make a choice I can feel at peace with? JazakAllah khair for reading and for any advice.

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Pray, then act. Istikhara isn't always a flashy sign - it's peace after making a decision. Choose the option that brings calm to your heart after du'a. And remember, returning home doesn't mean failure. Allah knows your struggle.

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Girl, been there. Try joining local Muslim groups or mentors - they might know safer employers. But if missing family eats at you daily, go home and plan long-term from there. Either path is valid with dua.

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I did istikhara too and then made a list of outcomes for both choices - felt silly but it worked. Also talk to one trusted elder for perspective. Sometimes a different view clears the fog. May Allah ease it.

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Short and sweet: your peace matters. If staying drains you mentally because of past harassment, it's okay to choose healing with family. Career can wait or be rebuilt later. You won't lose faith for choosing wellbeing.

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Honestly, set clear small goals: apply to X jobs a week, attend Y events, save Z amount. If you meet them, you stay and reassess. If not, going home won't feel like giving up but a conscious choice. Prayers with you.

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Wa alaykum salam. Don't pressure yourself into a forever decision now. Try networking and part-time freelancing while you're here, if it helps financially and keeps you close to job chances. And keep checking your heart after each step.

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Sister, your feelings are valid. Seven years is long - being with family matters. Maybe arrange a short trip home first to see how you feel, then decide. Practical tests like that helped me so much.

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I’d recommend making a financial buffer plan: how long can you survive without a job here? If you can afford a short search period, give it a try. If not, home is wiser. Trust small practical limits alongside istikhara.

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As-salamu alaykum sister, I went through something similar. Take time to list pros/cons and set a limit (like 6 months) to try for work. If no improvement, go home without guilt. Istikhara + a plan = less anxious. Sending du'as ❤️

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