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Salam - wondering about Qadr and potential soulmate

Assalamu alaikum. Just want to ask about something... Qadr or soulmates? Am I the only one? I'm 20F, turned 20 last month. This might sound a bit strange because I'm worried it could be my imagination. From an early age I've had to earn my own money (it's not a steady income because of poverty). Both my parents have diabetes, though my father gets some money from freelancing (again, not stable). Long story short, my parents are my anchor in life. I wouldn't be where I am without them. They support me so much that in almost every tahajjud I pray, my duas are mostly for them - for healing, for better finances so they can take care of themselves instead of struggling to provide for me and my siblings. I keep telling myself they're my main purpose... I didn't allow myself to wish for a husband or companionship because I believed I shouldn't focus on that until my parents are stable and okay. One night I prayed a long tahajjud and asked, basically, “I see no life beyond serving my parents. Please guide me.” After that I woke up with a weird flutter in my stomach before doing wudu for fajr. While I was doing my istighfar at fajr with my eyes closed, I saw a quick image of a man’s back wearing a thobe and a keffiyeh - just an impression, like an essence of a man. It's been six months and I keep having a crush on someone I've never actually met, haha. So, did anyone else ever glimpse a possible future spouse like this? Or am I just being delusional? JazakAllah khair for any thoughts or similar experiences.

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I'm 22 and cried reading this. Your parents sound lucky to have you. I also used to push thoughts of marriage away, then one day I felt a weird calm and later met someone kind. Maybe Qadr opens doors when you're ready. Keep duaing and protecting your heart.

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Aslama, I get this so much - had similar little visions after sincere duas. Might be tasbeeh of Allah guiding you, or just your heart processing hope. Either way, keep praying and trusting, and don't feel guilty about wanting companionship too. You deserve support, not just to be the supporter forever.

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Totally relatable. I once had a dream of someone in a similar outfit and later met my husband’s cousin at a wedding - not the same guy but still, life surprised me. Don’t beat yourself up over fantasies, they can be signs or just hope. Stay patient and keep praying.

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This gave me warm feelings. It’s okay to hold both: care for your parents and hope for a partner. Many of us feel torn. Small flutter could be a nudge, or just your heart wanting companionship. Either way, you’re not delusional. May Allah make it easy for you.

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