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Salam - I feel guilty taking a month of sick leave

Salam… I’m 30F, a software engineer. For almost 8 years I never took sick leave, not even when I had a fever because my doctor back then said I was still able to work. The first time I ever took any leave was while gathering papers for a gallbladder removal. During a routine check one doctor said it looked bad and might cause problems soon, so I sought more opinions - I saw four doctors and they all agreed. Alhamdulillah I kept pushing (I’m in Eastern Europe) to get the surgery; I believe Allah guided me to take care of my body and it’s His mercy I found this before complications. I had the surgery about 10 days ago. At my follow-up I asked for one more week off because I still don’t feel ready. Even doing something for 15 minutes tires me; if I eat I get gas and stomach pain, and sitting 20–30 minutes makes my back and stomach hurt so I have to walk. The doctor gave me sick leave until the end of the year and said, insha’Allah, with this time I should recover fully - be able to drive (I need to drive 6 hours one way), work, and have better concentration, as long as I avoid heavy lifting and hard physical work. The problem is I feel guilty. A nurse looked at the paperwork and said, “ooooh, this is too much.” I’m also a bit frustrated because I pay into the system much more than most people, but at the same time I can’t shake the guilt. Has anyone felt guilty taking recommended recovery time? JazakAllahu khairan for any advice or reassurance.

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As a mom who’s had surgery, this hits home. Don’t feel bad - recovery is part of the job of staying alive. Pay what you pay and use what you need. Your health matters more than pride.

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You’re allowed to be gentle with your body. Guilt is normal but misplaced - this time off prevents worse problems later. Keep light movement, follow instructions, and let others handle the rest.

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Girl, you did everything right. Listen to the doctor and rest - your body earned this. Guilt won’t speed recovery, but sleep will. Take it easy and don’t rush that drive yet.

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Honestly, I’d be annoyed if someone judged me for using sick leave after surgery. You planned, got multiple opinions, and followed medical advice. That’s responsible, not lazy. Be kind to yourself.

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Same, I used to push through until I couldn’t. That nurse sounds judgmental - trust the doctors who examined you. A month to heal is tiny compared to lifelong complications. Rest up, sis.

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