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2 months ago

Salam - I feel guilty taking a month of sick leave

Salam… I’m 30F, a software engineer. For almost 8 years I never took sick leave, not even when I had a fever because my doctor back then said I was still able to work. The first time I ever took any leave was while gathering papers for a gallbladder removal. During a routine check one doctor said it looked bad and might cause problems soon, so I sought more opinions - I saw four doctors and they all agreed. Alhamdulillah I kept pushing (I’m in Eastern Europe) to get the surgery; I believe Allah guided me to take care of my body and it’s His mercy I found this before complications. I had the surgery about 10 days ago. At my follow-up I asked for one more week off because I still don’t feel ready. Even doing something for 15 minutes tires me; if I eat I get gas and stomach pain, and sitting 20–30 minutes makes my back and stomach hurt so I have to walk. The doctor gave me sick leave until the end of the year and said, insha’Allah, with this time I should recover fully - be able to drive (I need to drive 6 hours one way), work, and have better concentration, as long as I avoid heavy lifting and hard physical work. The problem is I feel guilty. A nurse looked at the paperwork and said, “ooooh, this is too much.” I’m also a bit frustrated because I pay into the system much more than most people, but at the same time I can’t shake the guilt. Has anyone felt guilty taking recommended recovery time? JazakAllahu khairan for any advice or reassurance.

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2 months ago

As a mom who’s had surgery, this hits home. Don’t feel bad - recovery is part of the job of staying alive. Pay what you pay and use what you need. Your health matters more than pride.

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2 months ago

You’re allowed to be gentle with your body. Guilt is normal but misplaced - this time off prevents worse problems later. Keep light movement, follow instructions, and let others handle the rest.

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2 months ago

Girl, you did everything right. Listen to the doctor and rest - your body earned this. Guilt won’t speed recovery, but sleep will. Take it easy and don’t rush that drive yet.

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2 months ago

Honestly, I’d be annoyed if someone judged me for using sick leave after surgery. You planned, got multiple opinions, and followed medical advice. That’s responsible, not lazy. Be kind to yourself.

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2 months ago

Same, I used to push through until I couldn’t. That nurse sounds judgmental - trust the doctors who examined you. A month to heal is tiny compared to lifelong complications. Rest up, sis.

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