Potential with a Past - Need Advice, Salam
Salam I (23F) have been getting to know a man (25M) with marriage in mind for a while now. He seems to tick all the boxes - serious about marriage, makes me feel secure, committed to his deen, and I really like him. I feel sure about him, but he does have a past. When he was 21 he was in a relationship with a woman he met at university while living on campus. He told me he thought it would lead to marriage, that he felt pressured into it, and that he deeply regrets what happened. He said he’s not a virgin and that at the time he was struggling with his deen, but since then he’s improved a lot. I can see the change - he’s shown sincerity, made real effort, and I believe he’s more mindful now. He also said that the relationship became toxic and she cheated on him, and that nothing happened after that. I have never dated or been physically intimate with a man - I haven’t even held hands. Should I keep talking to him? Other than his past, he seems like a great, straightforward, god-fearing man who’s put in effort. My gut says to continue, but I worry whether his past is a red flag. I understand people make mistakes and that he was young and struggling; I don’t feel jealous of his ex at all. I’m not trying to judge him, I just want to know if this is a valid reason to stop seeing someone I care about. Any advice would be appreciated.