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Please Keep Me in Your Duas, Brothers and Sisters

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah. I just need to vent a little and ask you to please make dua for me. Sorry this is long. I'm coming from an abusive, toxic home and I have a strained relationship with my parents - mostly my mum since I live with her. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells all the time because I never know when she'll snap. For example, today was incredibly busy at work and I got home late to help with chores. I had already told her we need a househelp because I can't keep coming home exhausted; my body might shut down - it nearly did once. She refused and it turned into an argument. My dad always sides with her, so it just escalates. When she asked me to go shopping after I got home, I forgot one item and said, “I forgot because I left work very late today.” Immediately it became a fight about how I’m always complaining about work. She hadn’t even been home five minutes before she started yelling. It feels like I can't talk to her without it turning into conflict. I’m so tired and down all the time, stressed, getting headaches from it. I’ve been unwell for a few days but went to work today because staying home wouldn’t help me, and Alhamdulillah the day was busy. Still, when I get a short moment to myself, it never lasts before things go wrong. I really need your duas. I know I'm not perfect, but I’ve been struggling for years. Every day I ask Allah to open a way for me. I don’t think marriage is right for me now, so I’m trying to move out - which is very difficult given our cultural expectations. My only close family is my brother, and he’s also distant from them because of how they behave. I can’t afford therapy at the moment and my income is low. When I see others online or hear friends talk about good relationships with their parents, I envy them so much - I really wish I had that. I try to remember this is a big test from Allah and I pray I come out stronger. Please keep me in your duas. Jazakum Allahu khayran.

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Sending lots of duas, sister. I know cultural pressure can make moving out feel impossible, but small steps add up. May Allah open doors, protect your health, and bring you calm people in your life.

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Oh honey, that sounds exhausting. I’ve been there with a volatile mum - it drains you. Dua that doors open and you get a peaceful place to live. Take small steps, document things if you can. You deserve rest.

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I hear you. My mum was similar and it took years to get my own space, but it was worth it. Dua that you find strength and provision to move out soon. Try to take ten minutes each day just for yourself, even if small.

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Sending duas, sister. I can’t imagine how tiring that is. May Allah ease your burden and give you supportive people. Don’t feel guilty for protecting your health - it’s important.

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So sorry you’re dealing with that. You’re brave for trying to stay kind under pressure. I’m praying Allah gives you peace and the means to leave when the time’s right. Hugs from afar.

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Salaam, tears reading this. I’ll keep you in my prayers - may Allah grant sabr and a way out. Don’t beat yourself up for being human. If you ever need to vent, I’m around.

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As-salamu alaykum sis, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Sending duas for ease and strength, and may Allah open a safe path for you soon. Stay close to your prayers, it helped me in similar times. You’re not alone

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This hit home. I used to come home shaking from similar fights. Two things helped: short evening dhikr and saving tiny amounts toward moving out. I’ll dua for your relief and a clear way forward.

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